Am I with a narcissist?

 

It didn’t start off like this… In the beginning, you didn’t wonder if they loved themselves more than you.

 

Back then, perhaps you felt swept off your feet, endlessly pursued, or maybe it was even all unicorns and roses. What began as them holding you as something precious has now evolved into either a battle of wills—where they constantly assert their authority—or a revolving cycle of rejection followed by rebuilding you up. Now you aren't sure if they're just damaged, or if there is something else more sinister lurking behind their words and deeds. You're hurt and confused. It may even be making you feel sick or exhausted. You're going around in circles and overthinking and you don't know what to do next. A narcissistic abusive relationship can truly destroy your inner peace. 

 

So let's dive into this Chat 2 Charlie guide, as I break down what narcissism is, why it happens, and how to spot a narcissist (or detect a narcissistic pattern) in your relationships. And remember, while you may be questioning “Am I with a narcissist?”, it’s equally important to discern if your connection holds the spark of a twin flame or soul mate union. Once you’ve digested this, there’s even more insight waiting for you at the end! 

 

🔍 What Causes Narcissism? 🔍

 

Here’s the scoop, friend: narcissistic traits often begin to form in early childhood. When a child’s bond with their caregiver is disrupted—whether through neglect, overvaluation, or even abuse—a deep-seated need for validation can take root. Mix in genetic factors and challenging family dynamics (often more prevalent in boys), and you have the perfect storm for a lifelong craving for admiration and approval.

 

Before you label someone as a narcissist, pause and ask: Could their behaviour be stemming from something else—perhaps neurodivergence or childhood trauma? Sometimes what appears as self-centredness might actually be ADHD, autism, or simply a struggle with social cues rather than intentional manipulation. Reflect on whether their actions are consistently harmful or merely misguided attempts at seeking connection.

 

If you’re still unsure about the vibe, consider a tarot card reading with me, Chat2Charlie. The cards might reveal whether the connection is worth salvaging or if it’s time to gracefully step away. And remember—even in relationships that seem challenging, there’s potential for recognising that profound energy shared between twin flames or soul mates.

 

It's also worth noting; that if you partner has any kind of addiction, for example gambling, drink or drugs it could be a chicken or egg thing. They may be an addict because they're a narcissist or it could be the addiction is causing narcissistic behaviours. Narcissism is a personality disorder. However, the two conditions share similar traits and can occur simultaneously. 

 

What is narcissism?

Imagine someone who lives in a world where they are the sun, and everyone else simply orbits around them. That’s the essence of a narcissistic personality—a condition marked by an extreme, obsessive self-love that goes far beyond mere self-absorption. It’s a diagnosable disorder characterised by an inflated sense of self-importance, an insatiable need for admiration, and, most notably, a profound lack of empathy. Those caught in their orbit often end up feeling unseen, diminished, and exploited.

 

Is your relationship turning toxic?
Toxic love - do they love themselves more than they love you?

The Origin of “Narcissist”

The term “narcissist” originates from the ancient Greek myth of Narcissus—a striking youth so mesmerised by his own reflection in a still lake that he couldn’t tear his eyes away. His profound self-obsession blinded him to the devoted nymph Echo, whose unrequited love eventually faded her into nothing more than a whisper of what once was.

 

Traits or Syndrome?

While many might occasionally exhibit self-centred behaviour, true narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) exists on a spectrum. Some individuals display narcissistic traits while still retaining a modicum of empathy and self-awareness. Recognising these signs early can help you safeguard your emotional wellbeing, especially when balancing the delicate energies of twin flames and soul mates in your life.

 

Who's Zooming who?

In a few rare cases I've discovered self-obsessed clients who will never accept that they were actually the narcissists themselves. They saw themselves as victims and couldn't accept the fact their partner’s actions were just reasonable self-care. But more often than not, an empath will question themselves if this is the case, where the narcissist parading as an empath - will dismiss this idea out of hand. The fact you arrived here suggests you are an empath not the narc!

 

👀 Early Signs & Detection 👀

Learning how to spot a narcissist early on can help you avoid toxic dynamics.

 

Here are some red flags to watch for:

  • Constant Self-Talk: They tend to dominate conversations with personal triumphs and endless tales of accomplishment.
  • Endless Praise Seeking: At first, they might ‘love bomb’ you with attention, only to withdraw it once you’re emotionally invested.
  • Manipulative Give-and-Take: They offer help or affection only if there’s something to gain later, often sidelining your needs.
  • Charming Yet Volatile: In public, they appear charismatic and fun; in private, their temper can flare unexpectedly.
  • Jealousy and Entitlement: They act as if the world revolves around them, frequently insisting that everyone should recognise their greatness.

Take a moment to reflect on these traits. Recognising how to spot a narcissist early not only helps you protect your energy but also ensures you stay connected with the positive forces in your life—be it your twin flame, your soul mate, or the inner light that guides you.

 

 

Those all-telling traits: 

👑 Grandiosity 👑

Narcissists often parade an inflated sense of self-importance. Their relentless self-praise masks deep-seated insecurities, and over time, their need to feel superior can erode your own self-esteem.

 

⭐ Belief in Own Uniqueness ⭐

They truly believe they’re one-of-a-kind, deserving of special treatment and exclusive attention. This mindset, often rooted in a lack of genuine nurturing during childhood, fuels an insatiable hunger for validation that no amount of praise can ever fully satisfy.

 

💫 Sense of Entitlement 💫

At the heart of narcissistic behaviour lies an unwavering sense of entitlement. They expect admiration and special treatment without necessarily earning it. When reality doesn’t align with their lofty expectations, anger or disdain often follows, leaving those around them feeling undervalued.

 

💔 No Empathy 💔

Despite the emotional energy you pour into the relationship, a narcissist rarely reciprocates with genuine empathy. They might twist your words, criticise you during vulnerable moments, or dismiss your feelings outright. When empathy is missing, it might be time to seek support elsewhere. This is the one that often separates those who are narcissists and those who either just have traits or who may be neurodivergent. 

 

😎 Acts Arrogant 😎

Their charm might be magnetic when they need something, but arrogance quickly surfaces. If you consistently feel diminished or exploited in their presence, it’s a strong sign to reassess the relationship and protect your well-being.

 

😤 Envious 😤

They often harbour jealousy—either towards you or by convincing themselves that everyone else is envious of them. This distorted view deepens their demand for constant admiration and superiority.

 

🤝 Exploits Others 🤝

In a narcissist’s world, it’s all about fulfilling their own desires. They might manipulate or guilt-trip you into serving their agenda, leaving your needs perpetually side-lined. Embracing a bit of healthy selfishness—putting your well-being first—can be your best defence.

 

🎉 Needs Admiration 🎉

While everyone appreciates a compliment, a narcissist craves nothing less than complete adoration—almost like a child expecting a standing ovation for every tiny achievement. This relentless need for praise can leave you feeling constantly scrutinised.

 

🚀 Fantasies of Unlimited Success 🚀

They often cling to dreams of boundless achievement, convinced they’re destined for greatness in every area of life. Such unrealistic fantasies only serve to bolster their ego, frequently undermining your own aspirations.

 

💭 Can a Narcissist Change? 💭

The burning question remains: Can they change? With consistent therapy and a nurturing environment, some individuals with narcissistic personality disorder can work on healing old wounds and improving their interpersonal skills. However, transformation is a gradual and challenging process—and you should never feel obliged to endure a toxic relationship. Compassion is important, but protecting your emotional health is paramount.

 

 

✨ How Chat2Charlie Can Help ✨

Armed with an understanding of narcissistic behaviours—from grandiosity and entitlement to manipulative love bombing—you’re now better equipped to protect your energy. If navigating these turbulent dynamics feels overwhelming, I’m here with intuitive clarity and compassionate guidance to help you reclaim your power.

 

Unsure if you’re truly with a narcissist, or if your connection might actually be a profound twin flame or soul mate union? I invite you to book a tarot card reading with me. Let my insights illuminate the true nature of your relationship, guiding you toward the clarity you deserve.

 

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💡 Resource Suggestions for Dealing with Narcissistic Relationships 💡

To help you navigate and heal from narcissistic dynamics, here are some carefully curated resources:

Books

  • Will I Ever Be Free of You? by Karyl McBride

  • Disarming the Narcissist by Wendy T. Behary

  • The Narcissist You Know by Joseph Burgo

 

Online Communities & Websites

  • Reddit Communities: Join r/raisedbynarcissists or r/narcissisticabuse for shared experiences and support.

  • Support Forums: Explore dedicated recovery sites for practical advice and solidarity.

For that extra touch of clarity, consider booking a same-day psychic reading with Chat2Charlie. My tarot insights might be the intuitive nudge you need to navigate the complexities of your relationships.

 

🔗 Audible Audiobook Links 🔗

Enhance your journey to understanding with these insightful audiobooks on Audible:

 

Each link directs you to Audible, where you can explore details, listen to samples, and embark on a journey towards deeper understanding.

 

🤔 Final Thought

Embrace your power, protect your energy, and remember: you deserve relationships that honour and uplift who you truly are. Whether you’re questioning, “Am I with a narcissist?” or exploring the profound connections of twin flames and soul mates, stay strong and keep shining. And whenever you need clarity, let me help light your path with a tarot card reading that reveals the truth beneath the surface.

 

 

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